Showing posts from July, 2013

Are you a Geek Dad ??

An increasing number of fathers in the city are turning tech-savvy to bond with their kids
Are you the kind of father who beats his son to an online game of Farmville? Do the dinner table conversations with your son revolve around discussing features of the latest smartphone available in the market? Then you might just have earned the title of a geek dad. Unlike the common perception of a geek, these new wave dads are cooler, connected and more engaged fathers. According to a survey conducted in the US, a 'geek dad' is a father who is enthusiastic about technology and knowledgeable about the latest innovations. Interestingly, an increasing number of parents in Mumbai too, especially fathers are turning tech-savvy to bond with their children.
Says psychological counsellor Dr Pradnya Ajinkya, "Children disconnect from parents and return to school or other activities. However, a common knowledge and interest can promote an effective relationship. This certainly encourages a …

Coping with a serious stress over break up with college mate

Simmy, a 25 year-old college student was referred to counselling by family physician for  sleeping most of the day, missing class, and skipping meals.  Simmy comes to her first counselling appointment reluctantly,  but soon became comfortable in counselling and came to therapy regularly.  In treatment, Simmy recognised that the changes in mood and behaviour began immediately following the break up with her college sweetheart, because her sweetheart was having feelings for another girl/woman.  In future session, Treatment identifies feelings of grief, betrayal, and deeper down, hidden feelings of inadequacy. The therapy helps Simmy to have a breakthrough insight when she discovered that her depression was helping her to avoid these painful feelings. The recognition itself helped to loosen its grip. Simmy was regular to therapy and she began to identify and care for parts of herself. This helped to lift Simmy entirely.

Transition through loss and grief

Sunny has no history of psychiatric treatment but his partner reveals that Sunny has always been gloomy and anxious. Sunny is 58 years old and presents as a depressed to the point of verbalising confused thoughts and a loss of focus and cognitive organization. He is unable to work and is tearful, isolates and feels lethargic at all time. Treatment reveals that his mother’s recent death has not been fully grieved. He is also worried about life after retirement. Treatment includes identifying developmental-stage changes and normalizing feelings of grief. After a couple of sessions, Sunny is able to confront with inner held fears and beliefs and begin communicating better with family members and at workplace. Eventually together with therapist and family he begins to make a plan for transition to retirement. Sunny returned to his personal life and job with more hope and joy.

Psychological dispositions and feelings of inadequacy in an individual

Jeevan, 42, is a worried man and feels miserable and cries and cries during his first interview with the counsellor, and he cannot express why. He is married with two girls and one boy, all three are healthy children, money or finances are not a problem, and he claimed to love his job as a pilot until recently. Now lately, everything seems empty and meaningless. He feels withdrawn and  distant from his wife and family. He develops secret habits like drinking and excessive smoking to numb his feelings. Treatment reveals rigid beliefs and  hidden feelings of guilt and shame about Jeevan’s perceived inadequacy as a son and now as a husband and father to his three kids. Quitting drinking and smoking turned out to be easier once he was able to talk openly, with both his wife and his therapist, about his deep shame, guilt and fear. He came regularly to therapy and was also administered medicines by the psychiatrist. After six months  he made good progress. He still feels at times with a dim…

Are you living with a spouse and raising another child? – Case Example

Are you living with a spouse and raising another child?  The partner is struggling at home where they develop a tendency to become distracted is a constant source of conflict. There is high level of distress and the partner is easily labelled as lazy, selfish with lack of love and concern. There is a large impact on the marriage and is ruining the relationship. The partner is consistently inconsistent. It starts from feeling responsible for everything to just chronic anger.  The responsible partner is left with the 100 per cent responsibility and has to be involved in paying the school and home bills on time and work through the day tirelessly without being helped or appreciated. The partner begins to feel ignored and unloved and feel they have no choice but to constantly nag to make sure things get done. The distracted partner is so involved in a computer or video game and is unaware of the latest mistakes confused by the partner’s simmering anger further infuriating the spouse. The a…