Millenials having ‘it’ less? — By Roshani Shinde | Aug 27, 2016 - Free Press
Termed as the hook-up generation, there is a debate going whether young adults are having less sex or more. In the US and UK, studies have claimed that the millennial are having less sex than their parents’ generation. Roshani Shinde speaks to experts about what they have to say about the young adults of India and their sex life…
We are aware that stress, lifestyle and career are on the forefront for the young adults, does that also mean that sex has taken a backseat? Many relationship experts and sexologist of Mumbai clearly deny this. Dr. Pradnya Ajinkya, Psychological Counsellor says this could be true for only 4 couples out of 10. While Dr. Sanjoy Mukherjee, Psychologist and Marriage Counsellor and Dr. Hitesh Shah, Sex Counsellor-Therapist-Educationist, both say, rather today’s young adults are having more sex. “This could be true for married couples, but pre-marital sex and sex outside marriage has definitely gone up,” shares Dr. Sanjoy.
For a healthy marriage, an active sexual life lasts for a decade or two or even more. And yes, this is downsizing. From one to three decades now it has come down to hardly three to four years. Commenting on the same Dr. Shah shares, “adults between the age group of 28 to 35 do have a decline in the libido irrespective of their marital status. But the ones from 18 to 28 are having more sex than their previous generation.”
Prominence to career, changing lifestyle, no specific eating and sleeping patterns are the prime reasons for the decrease in the libido. Technology and multi-media does not allow the couples to share their lone time. They act as the haddis in the kabab. Apart from the poor work-life balance, Dr. Pradnya Ajinkya believes, the match-box apartments of our city curtail the privacy essential for a couple thus decreasing the desire over the period. She further adds, “With both the partners working and forever living in a rushed schedule, the sexual appetite might vanish in the thin air within few years.” Love-making forms an integral part of a romantic relationship. “One has to understand that sex is just one part of the marriage or any romantic relationship. Focus needs to be on how satisfying the love making process is than how frequent it is,” states the Psychological Counsellor Pradnya.
A satisfying sexual act is beneficial for physical and mental wellbeing. It improves immune system, boosts self-esteem, and burns calories. Studies have also suggested that regular sex makes a person look younger and fit. If this holds true then burning out of the passion will have its setbacks as well. According to Dr. Sanjoy, the damage is more on a woman’s emotional health. While Yoga Guru, Shilpa Anjara says it results in bad mood, spoils the hormonal balance which further aggravates other health issues like diabetes, thyroid problems, obesity and much more. “Less sex – more stress, more stress- less sex,” Dr. Shah in a precise manner sums up the hazards of low activity in the bedroom.
In order to break down this vicious circle and reignite the flame one can take help of Yogasana. Not only yoga but any physical activity enhances the urge. The Yoga Guru advices to practise meditation for reducing the stress levels. The sex-stress equation applies to sex-sleep balance as well. For the same, she encourages to have milk with a pinch of nutmeg for sound sleep. Seconding her suggestions, Shammi of Shammi’s Yogalaya says, “Pranayam and meditation promotes internal and external balance of an individual’s health. In the process sexual balance is also maintained. Baddha konasana heightens fertility. Suryanamaskar targets each and every area of our body, so following the same regularly can be of great advantage for overall health.” Even Shilpa Anjara names few asans which mainly targets the belly portion, and aids in increasing the sperm count for men, they are Utkatasana, Sarvangasana and Halasana.
Spending quality time, verbalising love for each other, expressing the feeling of being cared and wanted can built up a fine romantic relationship. The impact on the sexual life will be visible gradually. “The married couples should take a cue from the unmarried couples. Being romantic is intrinsic for a woman, treating her like a queen will do wonders in a longer run,” shares Dr. Mukherji.