#psychosocial - Life struggle with the truth By Dr. Pradnya Ajinkya

This is a case of a teacher who stood in front of her 6th grade and told the children that she loved them all the same. That was impossible, because in the first row, was a little girl named Bren. Bren was her daughter. In the school where the teacher taught, she was required to review each child's performance. The teacher wrote that each time I reviewed my daughter's report, I was surprised, "Bren is an excellent student, well liked by her classmates, but is troubled because her mother is her teacher and she must perform well." Bren is second in the birth order. Her elder sister also studies in the same school. Both the children are very close to their father. However, Bren always felt that her father was missing a male child. When she remembered this she cried and cried and cried. Both parents paid particular attention to both the children. The more they encouraged them, the faster they responded. By the end of her education, Bren had become one of the smartest in the group. She was her father's pet child. She graduated from college with the highest of honors. She found a job directly from the campus. A few months later, her mother found a note in her dressing table, from Bren, telling her that she was grateful to her mother and that she was the best teacher she had ever known. The story doesn't end there.  Bren is married to a young and handsome boy. She hugged her papa, and she wisphered in his ears, "Thank you, dear papa, for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important."  Her papa whispered back, "You have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me to be a father and it made a difference. I didn't know how to parent until I met my children.  Treasure every moment that you have. Time is a coin you can spend only once. Use it, invest it, make it count, and treasure it because you will share it with someone special. Wish you a happy married life..." The story doesn't end there. Bren is very anxious at workplace. She decides to quit her job. Her family decides that she meet a counsellor and discuss her hidden issues if any.

Counselling session 

a] This is a picture of me as a child.

b] This is a picture of me and my sister reading.

c] This is a picture of my papa and me.

d] See how my mother's doing such a good job. I am proud of her.

e] This is my husband. He loves me and he can understand me.

f] Yet I feel cold and clammy, my heart is pacing and I have tight pain. I often feel like this under stress and they happen out of the blue. These are constant symptoms at workplace -- tightness across my face.  I obviously feel that I am not good at my job. Situations like this happen day in and day out. So I have decided to have a look at what I would really like to do, apart from the fact that I can't afford to leave my job. My boss tells me that I am the best candidate. Then I almost feel like every one is writing my script for me. 

Therapist : What is the benefit of leaving your job? Do you want to think and write out the benefits? Let's think about what you are going to say before you start writing.

Bren : It is exciting to watch a child begin to write and it is easy for the teacher to provide positive encouragement for the efforts of the child. So what is the level of exictement of the teacher when a child cannot write?

Therapist :  The teacher and the child will have an effective vehicle to accomplish the goal of learning involvement. The teacher will continue to provide positive encouragement for the better efforts of the child.

Bren : Some of these children are fearful before or in the classroom?

Therapist : 1] Some of these children can feel fearful.... Encourage exploration and experimentation with words and language and thoughts and at the same time facilitate communication. 2] For the benefit of all, teachers and children increase familiarity with the other teachers and children. This will free the children of fear at the beginning and they continue to interact with comfort. 3] They learn to greet and say 'hello' and share their experiences by talking and writing. 4] When they imagine new possibilities they learn to transform existing thoughts to construct new visions. 

Bren : Some modifications in my mind can help me?

Therapist : With little creativity, major modifications can be made. 

Bren : I can see numerous 'come-in' benefits into my life. This is a new literary experience....